Thanks guys, have just informed W that I wld need more details. That I wld not be happy if long term lease but for a few months until she gets on her feet then possible.
The lease is 12 months. I wld be liable for all damage, rent etc if she abandoned plus a credit default to me name!
I said I need to think about it, that 12 mths is a long time and a lot cld change. Well she spat! Said that I owe her this for the last 13 yrs marriage, that the house is not just for her, that it is a big ask of someone else and that she does not know many people who wld pass the scoring.
I tick with needing some time, she keeps going, crying, saying that she is trapped, that she is owed this etc etc. She keeps on losing her temper. Then she says don't worry I won't be asking anything from u in 12mths time, and what cld possibly happened in 12mths. I kept with the let me think it through(I an seriously undecided) but she kept on about what else cld she do. Well I took the bait and said a lot cld happen in 12mths, if anyone wld have asked me 12 mths ago that we wld be separating I wld have said no chance.
I know and am starting to think I am just naturally bad at this. As expected she thought I was punishing her! Believe me there is nothing I want more for her to be happy and have a decent home for kids. But I do agree with AnotherStander that that this is part of what a WAS has to face. However, our circs are different in that W has not been able to work, have proper independence because of S with special needs.
Hence the need to think about it. But the rent is expensive for her benefits and I cld not afford the difference.
I don't want this to be another thing she holds against me which she wld do if I refuse likelihood is she will not get the house and will have to look for something sig cheaper.
