I would leave it alone. If she wants you to go with her, she'll bring it up. If she wants you to go but doesn't ask you, she'll miss out on your company. This is a good opportunity to let her be the pursuer, at least a bit. Good luck!
Good point Tori. Thanks for confirming my idea. If I don't get asked, it will be the first time for us not to go together in 10 years. I'm probably going on Friday with S2 and a friend of mine with his family anyways. Also, I've been meaning to say thanks for the "hope" you've shared for me, especially given your sich.
On a side note, perhaps kismit is working in my favor. I say that because on my way home from work I received a call informing me that I had won a free massage, yoga, or hypnotherapy session from when I had entered a raffle at the health fair I attended a few weekends ago. The caller also informed me that my W had win too (yes, I entered her name too). What are the chances? LOL.
Andrew, I do see hope for you guys, and I admire you for handling things so well. I have a feeling she's reluctant to ask you bc she doesn't want to give you what WAS's call "false hope." Most of them use this term. Let's see what she does.
Congrats on winning the free massage! And yes, what are the chances she wins too? Wow. What are you going to choose? I would choose the massage. I had this Chinese massage done while visiting my in-laws last year. It was cheap but so good.
I replied "nothing concrete following my Color Run. What's up?" Her reply, "I'm just taking the kids to the festival in the early afternoon. Just wondered." My reply, "Wondered what exactly? If ya don't mind me asking. :)" Her reply "IDK."
Boy, why does so much of this stuff have to be a tightrope walk? It sounds like she is asking you to go, but for whatever reason doesn't want to come right out and say it. If you want to go and she says something obscure like this again you might try "well I'd love to spend time with the kids, are you offering to have me join ya'll?" That way you're not pressuring her with the idea that it's a date or anything. It'll be interesting to see if she brings it up again.
...if anyone has a nice, neutral response to the "IDK" to gather more info let me know. If not, I'll probably just leave it alone. It's only Wednesday now, maybe something else will come out naturally.
Leave it alone. She is checking your temperature, ie, if you are still in the game. Keep letting her wonder. If she is moving closer to you, it will only keep becoming more obvious. Tori is right. This is a chance to let her pursue you.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
Tori - chances very slim of each winning. Funny thing is she didn't mention it til yesterday. I say "funny" because when I returned my call to the place, they lady had already spoken to W. That was a few days ago.
NG - I give details after the run.
AS - Tightrope indeed. A friend replaced "marathon" with an "Ironman" competition.
Denver - I havent said a word more about it to her. Thanks for checking in on my sich again. Journal / update So the past few days I have remained in BC mode with her, unless its about the kids or she initiates. One night while she was away this week, she called to talk to the kids. She mentioned she was at some cool bar with co-workers. I kept on track with her, "cool" and then passed the phone to the kids before she had asked (end convo first). Last night she and home, was nice basically. She chatted me up about my run tomorrow before we went to our separate rooms. This morning she accidentally woke me up early to get S2 ready for daycare, she then realized that her days were mixed up and he didn't need to go to daycare. She apologized verbally, told me to go back to bed. No biggie to me, I had a cup of coffee in hand. So then she advances towards me, rubs my back some, almost grabs my butt as she apologized again. Yes, that was good. Anyways, I let her know S7 was at school. She responds a couple hours later. I'm at this festival with my S2, my friends and his family. Eventually she calls to check to see what we're up to. Her voice is cheerful. Then when I tell her where we are at and stiff, she becomes very short with me, and reminds me of stuff I already know and ends the call. Really?!? I'm giving her the opportunity for space, a chance to pursue, and then she's going to seemingly get upset with me for a FAKing. Geez, who didn't see that coming. . Now it'll be interesting to see how she interacts later once she gets home in a few hours. My plans for tonight will include, bookstore (feel free to toss out suggestions), maybe cloth shopping, and hopefully a movie with my guy friend from earlier today, come home sleep and go to the run early tomorrow am.
It makes sense...Keep GAling. I think it's working. She obviously feels left out and this makes her feel uncomfortable. And her demeanor seems a lot more positive. Small progress every day will result in huge progress overtime! Have fun tomorrow!
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
