I could use some help. I have a new development and it’s sent chills down my spine! As many of you know, W and I have been playing “distancer chicken” for a long time now. Everything’s been very business-like. Strictly about the kids, logistics and finances. W doesn't really know what’s been going on in my life other than what she hears from our kids. For the most part, I’ve remained a mystery. Here’s the message I just received from W. Please keep in mind that her tone of voice was slightly angry and bitter. W: “Hey, it’s me. I think we need to sit down and talk. We don’t talk at all and it’s time. I don’t know if you want to try and make a time to sit down and meet sometime next week or I am actually open to calling our councilor to meet with him next week. I think it’s time to talk about several things so let me know, bye”.
I am EXTREMELY uptight and I don’t know how to respond. During our first month of separation W and had a couple joint counseling sessions, he’s a neutral councilor that W and I both like. We’ve never met with him to work on our marriage. It was basically a comfortable place for us to work out some logistics, discuss finances and he gave us ideas on how to explain everything to our kids. I feel W and I can control our emotions better when we meet with the councilor versus W and I just sitting down together. I don’t know WTF to do and I really appreciate any suggestions.
