Quote: As often as not It entails me doing all the talking and H just nodding his head or saying OK in all the appropriate places.
This is going to be difficult to grasp, believe it or not, we do not NOT listen on purpose. It is a bad habit and one we confess to having not always known and until a situation reaches crisis point, we do not try to repair it. Why? Well, that probably gets into a whole different question. This is not intentional and it is frustrating for us, because we do not recall what was said and know later we will be reprimanded for it. It involves active listening, paying attention and listening for certain words and framing and I repeat, until a crisis occurred, we did not know how to do this.
Is this frustrating for you? Absolutely.
I've only scratched the surface or Venus/Mars, wish I read it a long time ago, but I see a lot of men/women communication dynamic going on with you and H.
And you know, we do not perceive problems the same and do not like to talk about them and when we are willing, it is usually too late.
Believe me, he hears you, he just does not understand what he is hearing. The male perspective is much different and we do not see the same "problems" you do, and when we do, as I said, it is too late. Understand, we want to understand your perspective, you have to help us and be patient.
Yes, we are our own worst enemy. Nothing bad happen to me today and yet I've been down imagining future events. Productive? No.
Go forward and realize we want to be engaged we sometimes do not know how or when.
