Been served papers - first hearing two weeks away

[Grateful]

I am 35, and she is 31. I was quite isolated during the marriage. We lived separate lives. My main goal was for she and the kids to leave on the weekends, so I could be alone. We have never truly had a close relationships. We lived like roommates. We were married, but only legally. She worked late twice a week, and I left the house twice a week to be by myself. We are not in counceling. I have suggested, but she will not go. She was willing in the past, but I wasn't then.