Cake eating= you are the "baggage" and the problem, yet he is kind of holding you hostage to make everything appear "normal" - and still has an expectation of nightly massages. Doesn't sound too fair to you. He gets to exert his will and also expects you will go along with it. Is that right?
Yes that is right, and no it is not fair. He doesn't want to talk about our R, the DB rules say I'm not supposed to bring it up. His perspective seems to be "We're done. Your behavior determines the timetable of actual S/D."
I am not ready to leave financially or emotionally (not ready to break up my kids' home)so as of right now I could be called a hostage.
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
