After 18 months - H is finally filing.

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Thanks everyone. I am glad that my very, very long and detailed post helped others. (I sometimes worry that my novels here will scare everyone away - LOL...)
But I know what you guys mean - sometimes the similarities we find in our situations are uncanny and very helpful for our own mental sanity.

Even before reading all your replies, I had already calmed down and knew the answer: I had to let go and move on. That's another sign of progress for me - I don't dwell on the drama anymore and am quicker at identifying my hurt, fears and anger and find a faster way out of it.

So when H called to say good night to the kids I told him I got his text, thanked him for it and told him I agree with him 100%.

He then apologized on the phone saying "I am sorry if I hurt you." Didn't mention anything about his accusations or name-calling, but hey - this is way more I have gotten in a long time, so I'll take it as a sign of progress and goodwill between us! So I thanked him sincerely for saying that and ended the call first and on a good note.

I'm good, I did the right thing and I really have not thought about it since then.

Thanks for all the help!