Sunny my H told me our marriage vows were just words.... no meaning.... welcome to the script... I'd still like to know how they re-write history when there are plenty of pictures hanging around the house that tell the story opposite of their fantasy world.... Like everyone is telling you, it really isn't about you, even though it may feel that way...
Thank you all -- I have been making many changes but now I am ONLY going to focus on me and WHAT I NEED TO DO - making myself someone my son and ME will be proud of -- I look in the mirror -- tell myself "YOU ROCK" and get on with my life
thank you for all the wisdom strength and support -- you guys are all amazing people -- what you all live through and deal with you all stay so positive and focused --
Maybe my marriage will work out - maybe it won't but who I am becoming is a confident, fun, driven man who was lost for a long time -- it's nice to see him again !!!
Again thanks sooo much !!!
Sunny
If someone decides there is no goodness in you they won't be able to see it. I'll take a BLT over a MLC anyday !!!
Sunny my H told me our marriage vows were just words.... no meaning.... welcome to the script... I'd still like to know how they re-write history when there are plenty of pictures hanging around the house that tell the story opposite of their fantasy world.... Like everyone is telling you, it really isn't about you, even though it may feel that way...
I feel your pain -- though my wife says that 80% of the breakdown in the marriage is my fault not hers -- she is really mean --- keep on keeping on -- and don't give up on someone you love just because they gave up on you !!!
Be strong -- your life is being transformed you will see !!
If someone decides there is no goodness in you they won't be able to see it. I'll take a BLT over a MLC anyday !!!
and only cuz I want to see my son in his first bridal party.
Really?
Is that really the only reason?
Problem is Sunny, I think there is another bigger reason to drop by. Otherwise you wouldn't need to convince anyone here.
Fooling yourself or us? trying to? doesn't help you much with this process.
I made this decision under the advisement of my DB phone coach -- we discussed it a few times over several sessions sorry you feel it is wrong for me to do.
If someone decides there is no goodness in you they won't be able to see it. I'll take a BLT over a MLC anyday !!!
sorry she said 80% was HER fault for not speaking up --
Lose the scorecard. What that MAY really mean (TO HER) is you were horrible to her but can't help it, and she was a martyr...which she now regrets... so don't bother trying to figure out or comprehend the incomprehensible...it wastes such precious time and energy that you COULD be using on creating a new happy fulfilling life for you and your son.
GAL!!
but DO go to the concert. If you don't, you are choosing to be a doormat. Don't stop her b/c 1) you cannot and 2) you'll look petty and weak for trying
but do not cave in and not go yourself.
JUST GO and get a sitter if you have to (she should be the one to get a sitter but we don't expect her to now do we?)
So take charge of your life and begin by taking charge of that night...
Good luck
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
sorry she said 80% was HER fault for not speaking up --
Lose the scorecard. What that MAY really mean (TO HER) is you were horrible to her but can't help it, and she was a martyr...which she now regrets...
Yes I think this is true - she told me in November that she loves to be a Martyr !!! I just didn't understand it like I do now !!! -- It is so nice to see someone whose marriage was restored -- Thank you so much for your help !!!
Sunny
Me-49 W-41 M-9yrs T-15 6 year old boy She turned 40 and BAZINGA W gave me the ILYBINILWY speech - Oct 2011 next day she came out of it for a month like we were newly weds - Distant and cold from 12/11 to 1/12 I Don't love you at all 2/14/2012 I don't remember a day in my life when I loved you 3/31/2012 I want a divorce Haven't made love since January 2012 Haven't kissed or touched since March 2012 Threatening to call mediator since 6/2012 Still in the same house, separate bedrooms The Joy of the Lord is my strength
If someone decides there is no goodness in you they won't be able to see it. I'll take a BLT over a MLC anyday !!!
