Trying to Save my Marriage

[Cadet]

I'm really scared but more scared of him staying and me and my daughter living in a constant anxious state.

You wrote this ^^^^
And I asked you if you were detached?
That was meant to help you protect yourself.

About 10 days ago I gave you the going dark link.
That is about detachment.

You can also google it and add in LANCE ARMSTRONG, as he is a big proponent of that on the internet.

I hope that helps.