She told me that I had broken trust because of me spying on her and she had purposely left the chat window open and I proved to her that I was still doing the same thing.
She leaves a chat window open knowing you're walking back and forth and then when you look she accuses you of spying? What are we, 12? That's not spying, that's just curiosity and I would have told her that. Ask her what she is so guilty about that you can't even glance at her computer screen when you walk by without being accused of high treason.
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She said if she was going to cheat on me I wouldn't know it and that I'm making things very difficult.
She's talking about cheating but you are the one making things difficult?
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She said next time "that's it." For the most part, I just nodded and admitted that it was wrong of me, I dind't want to say much and give her anymore ammo.
And then she gives you an ultimatum? Wow. Listen up, DBing is not about being a doormat. You're being a doormat. Go back and review DR again, read the 34 DB 180 tips constantly. You need to really detach from her. You think you're detaching but you're just doing a little bit of ignoring here and there without really detaching. Clinging to the edge of the bed isn't detaching. You need to establish more independence. Let her take care of the baby all night, since when is taking care of someone else's baby your job? If she wants to go clothes shopping, let her deal with taking the baby along. Why is that on you? It's great that you help her with these things, but not at the price you're paying. It's time to detach and let her get a taste of what life without you is going to be like.
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I kept my ass on the couch until the baby was crying in her walker and then went over and focused solely on the baby, not even looking at the computer in case she walked downstairs.
Tell her to turn the screen off if she doesn't want you looking at it, otherwise it's fair game. Have you read the Married Man Sex Life Primer? She's testing you. You can't win by participating in the tests. Time to reign that in.
