Accepting reality, moving on with my life

[MrBond]

First off, I do not "over" analyze everything you post. I make comments and suggestions which you are free to not follow if you want.

Next, about the issue of forgiveness. I commented based on just what you wrote. And also to me, while forgiveness is a gift your give yourself, but it is also a gift you give the other person. Whether or not they accept it is up to them. As long as forgiveness is given without expectations of their acceptance, then there won't be any resentment.

I've seen many LBS's here who say they "forgive" their spouse but hold alot of resentment towards them. This ultimately shows up in their treatment of their children. Which is why I was asking about your current treatment of each other.

Children pick up alot of the verbal and non-verbal vibes that their parents give off. These insecurities are things they usually keep to themselves because they don't want to rock the boat and cause more problems. With your focus being so much on your W, I was concerned that the kids' emotions are being lost in the shuffle. You can ask them if their okay and they'll say they are, but deep down inside they really aren't. This is why children of divorce usually divorce even though they swear they would never do so.