Hi 25!, it’s been a while. Thank you for chiming in. Your wisdom, suggestions and thought provoking comments are much appreciated. IMO your FIL example is extreme however it clearly paints a picture of someone who didn’t make the necessary improvements and also probably made poor choices along the way. I could never understand how someone could be married that many times, just don’t get it.
Personally, I don’t feel there a “timeline guideline.” To be honest, I think tackling this subject is putting the cart before the horse, at the same time it’s a topic I need to keep a pulse on. There’s kids involved in my sitch and there’s no way in hell I am going to just jump in, head first, waving my hands in the air “let’s get married!.”
Anyway 25, for the most part I am in agreement with you, what your talking about makes sense. I like your wisdom, I feel it should also be directed towards my friends that want me to “move on” or “start dating.” Nope, there’s a time and place for that, just not right now.
I see my new IC today. It should be interesting because I haven’t seen a IC for quite some time and I hope she’s a good match. The last one just wasn’t a fit. The dude wanted to start doing breathing exercises with me and then he wanted me to sense my muscles contracting, the whole upper/lower diaphragm and mind/body connection. He made sure to record the session with a cassette tape. Are you kidding me, who has a cassette player anymore! He gave me the cassette and suggested that I listen to the session on my own time, F that! I am all for reading but listening to an IC session over again? what a joke! Don’t get me wrong, I am all for “calmness” and “relaxing.” But this diaphragm breathing technique thing just isn't for me. Sh!t, I think I've learned how to breathe by now. I am sure that kind of stuff is good for some people but it’s just not my cup of tea.
