I am starting to detach finally and I am feeling a lot better about it. It has been hard but now I can see that really it is the only true way out. My W came over for dinner the other night a recomendation of our kids C. And it was good. I don't think I made any mistakes other than I think I drank too much wine. she did too though so I think that is o.k. I tried to talk her into staying on the bed downstairs and not drive but she insisted...made it home but lucky I think.
