Thanks guys and you are right. I came in last night/ this morning and well I got pissed. I also let him know even if perhaps I shouldn't have. Oh well. I'm in a mad stage rather than a weepy stage. I had said before I thought his staying here was a little self serving so he could go through things and get his stuff and he did the very same thing last night. Difference was, I checked before I went to bed to see if he had. Of course,he had. I had told him before I didn't like that. It hurt my feelings and made me question his motivation for staying with the kids. Yet, he did it again. The other thing is that he has just been a jerk since he was here on Sunday. Maybe it's childish but I called him on that too. What I said exactly was, I had a great time on Sunday. Did you? He said Yes. Then I get that you need space but being rude because you are confused it not really acceptable to me any more. Of course it was 2:30 in the morning. He jumps up and says fine I will just go and that was the second button he pushed. I said, Yep that'll teach me because I'm not quite used to it yet. Then I again opened my big trap and said just remember this is your choice. I am not making you do anything and I stalked off to bed. I did have to come back out of the bedroom about 40 mins later to find my inhaler. He was just laying there awake. Asked what I was looking for. I told him and we never said another word to each other. I know it was completely the wrong thing to do. I am fully aware of that. I also know though that if I hadn't said something I would be stewing. I'm not, now. Perhaps, it was the wrong way to say it. But at least it's not festering, which is what I would have done previously. Also, while I fully believe in DB'ing I don't believe in taking crap. lol If I choose to that's one thing but if I have said look this bothers me and you continue to do it then that does indeed piss me off. The other thing is my house is completely trashed. Really. That is a big big issue for me. Everyone in my family knows it is a big deal for me. The mess just gets me out of sorts.

The other thing that confused me was someone asked me out last night. It was completely unexpected. This person is just a friend and a classmate. I said no. However, to be honest, if things were different I would in a heartbeat.
It helped me in the sense of knowing how I really would like to be treated. Honestly, I don't think my husband will ever be that way again. Perhaps that angered me too.

So that was my night. Sucky as it was. I don't really have the time to deal with all this today. Or maybe it is the energy. I remember my aunt told me when she was dying with ALS, " some people give you energy and other's suck it from you." Right now, H is in the latter group and I don't have the energy to deal with him. Here's to silence and a peaceful couple of days.