There seems to have been some positive progress over the last week. My H was more open to me he sent me some "enticing" text messages and we seemed to connect more.
Then Monday came. I had a horrific day at work and I had to run home to get our S and take him to boy scouts. When I got home I had 5 minutes to get him ready and out the door. He was just sitting down for Dinner. S alone H has decided he will only cook for him.... So I had to hurry my S along to get him out the door. Now last year my H would take S to Boy Scouts however this year he announced it was too much for him and if our S wanted to continue I would have to take him. So as I was leaving the house my H said he was going to go down to the bar to get a burger and asked if I wanted one. I just said "No" and got my S and left.
Normally this would not be an issue, but ever since I had mentioned he may be drinking too much he has stopped drinking around me all together. He will drink when I am in bed or makes these stops to the bar when he is out. I told him his having a beer with dinner or here or there is not an issue but sometimes he gets on these drinking binges and just wont stop and his behavior alarms me. That is where I have the issue. So as I was leaving the house I was getting steamed. Here I was just worked a 10 hour day I have a 3 hour commute and running my H to boy scouts and he is going out to relax and have a beer and burger??
When I got home it was after 8 at this point and I found out my S has 2 hours of homework in his bag. Now they got home 3 hours before I did and my H never asked about homework they just plopped infront of the TV until it was time for me to come home. So there I sat until 10 with my 7 year old S helping with Homework. Then my H came to join us to help with the homework. He could hear I was getting frustrated so he tried to take over so I just let him.
When it comes down to it if my H wants to go out for a beer that is one thing but when he tells me "Taking our S to boy scouts" is too much for him and the last 3 times I took him he goes out for beer this really bothers me. I feel like he is choosing his needs over our S. Maybe this is just my perception and not the way I would handle the situation, Maybe I just need to get over it?
Tuesday I had another awful day at work. I came home and H was very distant. I had to take our dog to an agility class and I asked if he would like to go watch. Something new I started and he has never seen it before. I was already taking our S and thought he would like to go. He just looked at me and said a harsh "no" so all I said was OK.
Now I know I should not assume anything, but our previous week was good. I know my H is assuming my frustrated attitude is because of him and in reality it is only about 10% of it. Work is really 90% of my problem the last 2 days, but my H never asks me about my day he just assumes my attitude is always about him. Should I be clarifying my attitude? He never asks me anything and I when I do say something about my day he comes off as indifferent.
