You are probably going to have to back off of trying to convince him for now. You threw it out there and he said he needed more info. If you try to push it, he will run from it and will see you as trying to control it.
He again sounds like mine - the problems are your fault. I would also not fight him on his point of view. It is his and you can disagree with him on that. That's all he sees right now and it will take more time to change it, if you can. If he will go to MC, at least try it. We're 17 years in and my H won't try anything, so an offer for MC is at least something.
It is a shame for all 4 of you. I feel the same way. Remember I said my H said if we R it will be on his terms and his timeline? I think you are being told the same thing, unfortunately. And it is stinky.
M44 H57 D17 (special needs) M 18 yrs Bomb 7/2/12 Still living together
