the time and space my H got when he moved out seem to have been good for him. i know it's been good for me. i've been able to detach in a way i never thought would be possible. i'm living one day at a time and not afraid of the future anymore.
my H is actively staying in touch with me now. before, i would be the one to initiate or not, and if not, i'd have so much anxiety about what he was going to do...every day, every minute, even.
now he texts me and emails me regularly. his communications with me are always kind and complimentary. i accepted a call from him yesterday (charges on credit cards he wanted to explain) and he was thrilled that i decided to speak to him.
all i can say is, the moment i decided to detach and move on with my life was the moment he decided he didn't want to live without me.
we still have a long way to go, if we R, but at least, i'm not the bad guy anymore and he's appreciating me now.
give this space time and enjoy it. you will be able to see more clearly what you want and need in life to make you happy. your H will, too. that's a good thing.
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Thanks SS. I'm trying to. There's so much I put on hold the past few years. I know this has been worth it...just to see the change in me. My sister even commented on it out of the blue yesterday. Made me smile.
