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[mamabird]

So here's the latest update:

Me: Did you see my email about Retrouvaille?
H: Yeah, is that the thing our friends J & C did?
Me: I'm not sure
H: How did you hear about it?
Me: Some friends at work (NOTE: telling him I heard about it here would have killed it right then and there)
H: Well, I'm not sure. Is it for people who want to save their marraiges?
Me: Yes, well, it's for people who have a lot of problems, like us, and who need to learn how to communicate better. I hear it's really great.
H: Well, I'm not really that interested and I'm leery. I'd need to learn more about it. There are a lot of predators out there. (NOTE: I knew that he would say this if the idea didn't come from one of his cool friends)
Me: It's run by the church.
H: (no answer to that)
Me: It's only $150
H: But it's a whole weekend (as if 14 years isn't worth investing a weekend)
Me: I think we could use some help in communication.
H: Communication is not our problem, it's your behavior and your character.

Ok, I'm paraphrasing somewhat... but that was the gist of it.

We didn't get into a fight because honestly we didn't have time and the kids were lurking... but he keeps saying he doesn't want to work on it or try. Even though he suggested MC (whatever that might do). Even though he has been helping a bit more around the house. Even though he seems to be on board with our financial austerity plan.

I had to tell him his point of view was very narrow and fought back on the communication issue - yes, our problem is communication.

Any ideas on how I can convince him further on Retrouvaille? I think our best bet is to find someone we know who's done it.

This guy needs a serious 2 x 4. To think that my behavior was influenced only by my character and not by anything that was going on in the R at the time is completely small minded. I feel like I constantly hit a brick wall with him. He certainly is sticking to his own timeline and I just have to learn to be more patient and not push. But he really seems dead set on his own point of view and not being open to any possibilities. What a shame for all of us.