What would be different in your life today if H was completely out of the picture?

Hi Tumbling, i think what labug said here is really significant. I have thought about this often. What would i do differently? And to be honest, right NOW, not much. I don't even know if i would be looking for somebody else to enter my life right now. Because when i do think about that...it gives me stomach knots...a clear sign i believe that i am not ready for that. So i enjoy what I have right now which is what we all more or less have. Ourselves, our families our friends and our work.

It would be an ADDITION to our inner happiness if the sitch worked in favor of R (if thats what we want), but it should not diminish our inner happiness if its not there.

At least thats how I try and look at things right NOW.

hope you are well Tumbling. i hadn't realized before how similar our sitchs are in terms of timeline, ages and length of M (except i have the added benefit of the OW!).

(((( ))))

TPS
Me: 44 H: 42
M14 T17
S10 D7
10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month
21/04/12 H is 'DONE'
04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010)
July '14 H ends affair
May '15 H moves back home