You have a lot of emotions to deal with right now. It is all normal. Be patient with yourself and give yourself time to process everything that you are feeling. Once you process your emotions, then things will become more clear for you.
I am confident that you will come to a point in time when you will look back at the efforts and changes you have made in the last 9 months without any regrets.
Hang in there Ro.
Thanks LITB! I know its going to take time. I realized last night that I have a really good support system. The immediate family knows now, except for SS, and sides are definitely being drawn. H will be seeing SS today and telling him. H ended up telling my brother last night and he was SO upset. Apparently H told his mother, and she didn't ask any questions. Just said she waste sorry it didn't work out. WHAT? Makes me crazy!
I know I have to move on as if he's never coming back. Trying not to become bitter in the meantime.