What happens is that whenever I try to express my point of view, he takes the standpoint that I am the guilty party, so he can get the upper hand. It's a power/control issue, plain and simple. We are not playing as a team, we are playing against each other - and that is not good. The problem is, when I stand up to him he sees that as "argumentative", so backing down is a 180 for me. The problem with that is, I'm screwed either way. I'm either an argumentative b!tch or I'm a doormat/martyr. I need a serious advocate.
I've got the same dynamic and it is very frustrating. When I stand up, I am "challenging" him. I've tried to start to think about how to accept H's view point as his but politely disagreeing.
M44 H57 D17 (special needs) M 18 yrs Bomb 7/2/12 Still living together
