After 18 months - H is finally filing.

[mamabird]

A lot of the marriage gurus recommend not focusing on past/problems at all when trying to R... not to sweep under the rug but to build trust and get back to a place of strength before dealing with the issues - then they become much easier to deal with.

I have been reading your thread and I feel like we have similar dynamics in our Ms. It seems clear from that text exchange that there are still feelings between you two.