1. Your latest synopsis makes you sound more detached than I had gathered from your previous posts. I'm not sure whether you waver or whether your more 'take it or leave it attitude' is recent.
2. There seems to be an underlying assumption that your H knows what he wants and that the problem is him telling you or acting on it. I understand that you don't want to stay in limbo but it sounds as if he may be genuinely ambivalent and changes his mind day to day (hence all the mixed signals). What if your tolerating more limbo and mixed signals were what it would take to give him a chance to become clearer? Would you still rather end it? You probably can't control being sent mixed signals by him. You can only control your own sending of mixed signals--and even that isn't a given.
3. I like your title "Staying off the ride". I'd like to know more about how you're doing it and how you assess whether or not you're staying off the ride. I take it that "staying off the ride" means that you're not experiencing the ups and downs of a rollercoaster ride. Then again, isn't this exactly what many of us are on at this point? (Maybe I'm just talking for myself!)
4. I can really appreciate your desire for clarity in your sitch but you can't speed that up. What about giving yourself a date in the future when you assess whether or not things are any clearer? You say that you don't want to stay like this for 'much longer'. Do you have an idea of what that means?
5. It seems that the ball is in his court as to whether or not you see him tom night. Even that puts you in limbo. Good luck if you do see him and if you don't!
Me: 51 H: 52 T: 23 yrs M: 19 yrs S18, D16, S14 (special needs) PA: 2003/2004 Piecing: 2004 on Suspect H had EA: 8/2012-12/2012
