Tumbling, I read all your latest posts last night but I hadn't had a chance to reply. I only have a few minutes to write bc I have a class to go to, but first, I'm so sorry you've gone through such difficult times. Your story about Oct '11 sounds so stressful.
I think you have a good mindset and are making the right decisions. However, remember that patience is paramount. Live your life and don't try to force committment or an answer from your H.
My H did something similar to yours back in September '11. He said he wanted to commit to our M (that was right after I'd received emails from the OW saying he had stayed in touch with her and I had called a L to file for D.) I couldn't trust him, so it took me six weeks to decide and he had changed his mind by then, but I do recognize that was the only time in the past 2 years when he openly said he wanted our M and he would do whatever it took, and make whatever changes he needed to make. He was kind of quick to change his mind, though. WAS's behave in very similar ways. Don't overanalyze his behavior. Just go with what's happening NOW. If you get to go to dinner, be the best you can be. No R talk, as you said. Hang in there, and let us know how things go. Gotta run.
