Keep breathing...

[mamabird]

You know, I am the type of woman who could be referred to as a "ball buster". I have been trying to soften those qualities somewhat as I doesn't really work in my M. My H doesn't have a strong enough ego to stand up to it, so he threatens and coerced and convinces until I back down, and I have let him do that to me, against my better judgement and to my detriment, time and time again. And yes, you are right, this pattern must be broken if we are to stay together.

I'll add more to this later. I can't organized thoughts at the moment. It's over 100 and I'm sitting outside.