Wendylon, I share your anxiety that our detaching may result in them further detaching but I am finding it is enabling me to get some perspective and realise I am just as important as my M.

What are you doing re GAL/focus on you?
I've recently rediscovered long baths with a book...especially with this dark evenings

I think AS's responses are brilliant too - I'm stealing them for reference and saving them on my phone!

Tumbling

ME41 H39
T12 M9
Ilybinilwy 10/2010
H moves out 11/2010
H moves in 09/2011 out 11/2011
Try to fix it alone, give up 07/2012
Tumbling to file 02/01/2013 :-)
"Strong on the inside, soft on the outside"