All I have to offer is to think, make sure your decision isn't overly influenced by any anger/resentment/hurt, and then think it through again. You know best what's best for you...
A couple things about what you plan on saying (my additions in italics, not necessary for emphasis):
Quote:
"W, I'm sorry this transfer fell through for you. I was really excited for all of us. After thinking about it I have decided to move back as we had planned. It is the right thing for ME and S will have both of our families close and involved in his life, adding to it.. I am ready to listen to any ideas or feelings you have about how to work things out once you have time to think about it."
Just my thoughts there, make sure to get in the benefits for S...
I am liking your positive strength I am hearing in your posts, and that you see the risks, and accept that they exist.
You have come a long way man!
T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
