Im finally seeing how NO REACTION is the BEST reaction!!!If it will get under their skin, then all the better. Thank for for that pearl of wisdom for now I can look back and see how some things that he's done could actually be an attempt for a reaction or a "see there" kind of attitude towards me.
Yes it's all tainted with lies, control and manipulation! It still baffles me as to how and why people do this to others. It happens everywhere, just not MLC! But at the same time I am SO GLAD that I HAVE to learn this, because I AM NOT THIS. I will NEVER be this.
Now I see why some LBS have to jump back and forth into denial! I mean who wants to admit this insanity is going on? But on the other hand once you get some good healing and acceptance under your belt....well hells bells, it's just too damn funny not to watch this!
On another interesting note...ater XH shutting out his paternal side of the family for one year, he recently contacted his aunt. He inquired as to why "my ex wife and my kids were invited to the last 2 family reunions, but I didn't get an invite. Is the family disowning me?" . His aunt responded that he shut his face book down, didn't let anyone know his address, email, phone numbers, etc after the family tried to contact him, so as far as they were concerned, he dumped them, not the other way around.
No reply from XH back to Aunt. She said she felt he was having a pity party and looking for sorrow. The paternal family is so upset, disappointed, and hurt by his actions to us and that family as well. He really burnt bridges with them, and that makes me so sad. It's not just what he did with us, it's things in the past that they really noticed about him. But it utimately was HIM that did these things.
