I did ask if there was anything I could do or help with. Including if he needed to go get stitches. He told me no. So that was just a brief update. I'm so confused. Could I be a WAW that stayed and he left to DB me? I have no idea. I swear some of the stuff he is doing is classic DB though.
He seems to be finding excuses to come around and he is seeking me out and talking to me. It's just weird ish. He never talked to me before. It was like pulling teeth. Of course, I pretty much quit trying though too.
No, it sounds to me like your DBing is starting to take root! It sounds like he's doing a little pursuing. Just be careful not to over-respond to it because he'll go right back to distancing. Just keep up with the detaching and let him set the pace.
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It seems to be working. I think. Who knows really. It is agonizingly slow.
It is slow, patience is key (and I have very little of it!)
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Would be nice to have some sort of idea what is going through his head but I don't dare ask. I suppose I will just use the positive interactions as reinforcement.
Absolutely! Celebrate the baby steps quietly to yourself. Use them to keep you going!
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I keep feeling like something is about to happen. I know that sounds weird.
I never discount a woman's intuition!
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12 pounds gone! Yay! I haven't been getting the physical exercise I need to. Perhaps that will be my next thing. Give me an outlet for all this anxiety.
Congrats! And a definite 'yes' on the exercise, it's an amazing outlet for anxiety. I've thrown myself deep into weight-lifting again since BD and it's worked wonders on my anxiety. I sleep a lot better too!
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Act as if. Truth be told-still faking it. Sigh
That's why it's called "acting" as if It's all about faking it, looking like you're content, happy and satisfied with life when inside you're really hurting.
It's all about faking it, looking like you're content, happy and satisfied with life when inside you're really hurting.