Back to Square One?

[Wendylon]

I also have to disagree with the others about the PI. In the end, either you will waste money and you learn nothing new or you learn something new and all it does is hurt you. Decide if an affair is a hard line for you. If not, don't bother.

Thank you, MKB, for your input. I agree with you. At this point, I think I would resent spending the money on a PI. I'd rather spend it on GAL.

If you really suspect drinking obviously he is using it to cope in some way. You might just keep an eye on it.

I think I won't mention anything for now. Part of our history is me nagging him about his eating, smoking, drinking and I know I won't get anywhere. Again, I won't bother for now and it's a 180.

If you think he would agree ask him to a lunch date near his workplace. Obviously not if he would consider this chasing. Perhaps if you do not initiate contact while he is gone he would be more open to that suggestion when he gets back.

For a while, it feels as if I've initiated most of our 'dates' so I'm backing off from that for now. Maybe in a few months' time... Thank you for the idea.