I'm still lost and confused so I haven't given an ultimatum or anything. "If you don't know how to act, don't act.", right? I've made my goals and I'm practicing LRT/180's for the moment. I figure I can have that internal deadline and if I don't see change then I can take a different action; I need to be patient.
Right, I've gotten the ILYBINILWY talk, needing space and break, not wanting to be touched and I've taken that into consideration with beginning LRT. LRT isn't about being cold, rude, or angry from what I've read in DR and on other posts, even a post I saw from Michelle where she says it's about being detached but loving, being caring but not overly enthusiastic.
Since we are still living in the same house and sleeping in the same bed I have to walk a fine line. I don't do the obvious stuff like saying ILY, calling/texting, begging, pleading, crying, or buying gifts. I act happy/content with how things are while we are in the house together, I'm friendly when she speaks to me, I help out here and there when asked, and when I can help out with the kids without being asked I do.
My goals are there so that as I continue to practice LRT (I am having trouble with emotionally detaching, with not wondering what she is up to, but I don't ask questions) and perform small 180's that I'll see the small changes when they begin to occur.
“People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Abraham Lincoln
