Bills get payed first, personal spending comes last. That is the way it generally works anyway. H USUALLY consults me befoe spending anything significant...now. This past summer though was a different story altogether. H spent at will, bills got behind etc.
Quote: How does H get to spend money on himself on things you do not think important, but not you?
This is simple...H pouts. He will tell me that it isn't important, it is ok if he has to wait and then he POUTS. He is the king of pouters and he works me with it. I know it is a failing of mine that I almost always cave in when he gets like that too I can't stand it, it really stresses me out, so I shuffle things around, put my own stuff on hold and usually find a way for H to get what he wants. Unfortunately this usually snowballs on me...once he gets the greenlight on a certain amount of $ he seems to THINK there is more where it came from This usually happens DESPITE my telling him otherwise. H will even acknowlege this is the usual scenario but it doesn't stop him from doing it. IT is as much my fault too for enabling it
The list was to provide H with ideas for an anniversary gift.
It is my HABIT to put my needs last. I do try to break this habit by allowing myself to by one small thing each payday. This is usually something like make-up, a sweater, a book or something of that nature...usually something under $20. It is actually a big step for me to do this...I keep hoping to be able to raise my own limit but I just can't do it yet. I feel horrible guilt when i do this.
Hugz, Zoo
"If patience is worth anything, it must endure to the end of time. And a living faith will last in the midst of the blackest storm."
- Mahatma Gandhi
I can't stand it, it really stresses me out, so I shuffle things around, put my own stuff on hold and usually find a way for H to get what he wants. Unfortunately this usually snowballs on me...once he gets the greenlight on a certain amount of $ he seems to THINK there is more where it came from 
