3 years aftet D-Day and i finally registet

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Ed listen to what 25yearsmlc has written to you she speaks wisdom. It seems to me that you do push quite a bit. As far as texting goes you have to stop answering them as soon as you get them. She is not reaching out to you. IMHO these are those crumbs I'm talking about and this is what I mean. She is doing what she wants when she wants with no regard to you and do you know why? A part of it is because you are allowing it to happen to you. In other words she knows that you will take her back but she will send you a text at 5:45 in the morning call you a dork even tell you things are going good all just to keep you around.

You have hope that all those things have a meaning and she knows it. She has you hanging on a string. Listen to what I'm about to tell you. When my W had an affair back 2003 after we reconciled she told me that she enjoyed having POWER over me. My W told me that she knew that she could get back with me at anytime because of how desperate I was. Pushing, pleading, needy and begging. Then one day I was outside working on my truck and all of a sudden it hit me, I couldn't live like this anymore. The affair was over by this point but we were still living under the same roof but "separated". I moved out. I got a life, I only talked to her in regards to the kids and I started to see another woman.

Let me tell you Ed that when she got wind of me being with someone else even though we were separated well that was all she could handle. Now I'm not telling you to go out and find another woman but as you can see I couldn't live the way she wanted to live and my gut and my heart told me it was time to do something. I was like you were Ed, I was stuck.

It wasn't until I decided to start moving on without her and she really knew I meant it that she made a decision that she didn't want to be without me and let someone else have me. My W told me she never thought I would do that to her. Well she was wrong and here I am back again years later because I'm a dope, lol. You can read my thread if you like. My point is Ed that like you I want my marriage to work out I made mistakes too we all do but unlike you I will be fine if my marriage is over. One thing I'm learning from being here is that you can only change you and if you become a better person than that's good. If your marriage is over you will be fine.

As far as things go with your son if I were you I would at the very least have a consultation with a lawyer and explain to him what is going on. You will get a lot of info from a consultation. I would not be sending her photos of what she missed. I see that as pushing/pursuit, look what you are missing you should be here with us. She is making the choice to not be there with her son so it's her problem not yours. It's very unusual for a mother to do this to her child. I also agree that you should not allow her unsupervised time with him but that is something a lawyer can advise you on. I suggest you keep detailed notes on when and when she doesn't see your son.

There are plenty of things you can do to GAL. Join a bowling league or a gym, go hunting, fishing. Go out and meet people just being around others can be helpful. If you are dpressed all the time than talk to your IC and Doctor about medication. There's no shame in it you are going through a difficult time. Take back your life Ed it's long overdue. Don't allow her to control you anymore. That's all for now.