I am scared from what a few of you have said that the EA will escalate into a PA quickly. My H and I discussed & agreed that a PA would be a deal breaker. However, this was soon after he told me about the OW. Now, my boundaries are fuzzy. I thought they were crystal clear. He says he loves her and she loves him. Her D will be final within a month. He is moving out in a month (it's almost all he can talk about). Does it seem likely that they will have a PA? What should I do /not do in terms of questions (I think I DO need to know that it has turned into a PA, and that I have a right to know this).
My C told me that men have a tendency to attach more emotionally when they are physically involved with someone, whereas women need the emotional connection to want the physical. Doesn't this imply when/if my H's A turns to a PA that he will be even more over the moon about her and a potential life with her???!
Plus he is very much wanting to "move on with his life" at the end of six months (the length of the apartment lease he took), so he seems to have put pressure on himself to make a decision based on where he is at that point. How long do PA usu. last?
When a S is having an A, how long should you put your life "on hold" waiting it out to see if the A ever ends??!!
I am so distraught today thinking about the upcoming months of S from my H. I am also very very sad that in two weeks we will telling our 3 boys (13, 10, 9) that he is moving out to "figure out his problems." They will be devastated. He thinks by coming by the house every day after school (he has always been the one home) that will help cushion the blow & "maybe it won't be as bad as you think."
HELP!!
M- 18 T-21 S-14,11 & 10 BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA) H moved out 11-3-2012 10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life. 11-25-13 Jointly filed.
