Hi ladies, thank you for your posts. It’s amazing what we can learn from one another’s threads! So many of us want answers, including myself. We want movement, we want to see progress. We don’t see anything happening and we get discouraged. I see it, feel it and understand it because I am in the same position as many others here. So many of us don’t see how its ever going to work out. Well, you know what? That’s probably what our WAW’s think! They want us to be discouraged, they want us to move on. They actually want us to fight with them because it will validate their decision!
I know it’s very cliché but this is why we are constantly reminded to have PATIENCE. I can’t believe I am not even 5 months into this bull sh!t, it seems like forever! I constantly think about the 6 month mark. I keep telling myself that I can’t wait for the 6 month mark to come because then I “might” finally get some answers. I constantly need to remind myself that I am not in a rush!!! I am discouraged just like you guys! I’ve posted this before, it’s an email I received from W two months into our separation and yes, I have a hard time letting go of this statement!
From W: “I just know that unless you can be the family's financial rock and backbone every day, week, month and year from now until forever, that I can't return to what we had”.
Numerous people have told me this is concerning and I agree with them. Most of us want financial safety and security but in my opinion this is very extreme. Right before our separation W and I went to a MC for a couple sessions. W said “my concern is Rough will start making really good money and then move on to someone else.” Is this shallow sh!t or what!!!!!
In the end, I haven’t given up, the grass isn’t greener on the other side, we all have our issues, etc….I’ve learned a lot about myself and grown from this experience, regardless of the outcome.
