AnotherStander, thanks again. I am starting to learn a lot about myself with all of this - in part how I am reacting when I don't feel in control of a sitch! Wonder if that makes me controlling?
No, you're a LBS, just like the rest of us We all want to control the sitch, to dictate its direction and to fix things. But we can't. We just have to back off, and because that's the opposite of what we want to do it's VERY difficult for us.
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Sorry to hear your sitch has not improved. I sincerely hope ur W sees how strong u are. You certainly seem to be handling this better than me.
Thank you, you are too kind I have had major ups and downs throughout this experience. There were times that I was not strong at all, in fact it scared me to discover just how weak and vulnerable I was. I'm in a better place now, but the rebuilding continues.
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I just feel such a mixture of emotions that I can't see the wood for the trees. I think the space wld do me good in a way to help re focus.
I know exactly what you mean. After BD I knew W would be leaving, but didn't know when. The range of emotions I went through was unbelievable. I was a wreck. It actually did get better after she moved, it was a lot easier to detach and focus on me after that. So yes, it can actually help not just W, but you too.
We all want to control the sitch, to dictate its direction and to fix things. But we can't. We just have to back off, and because that's the opposite of what we want to do it's VERY difficult for us.