What's wrong? What are you thinking? Are you mad at me? Are you in a bad mood?
Gee, what will I say if I drop all these questions.
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That does present a quandry...lol. It has been difficult for me to break the habit too. What I have been trying to do when those questions start to bubble up is just squash them immediately or get up and walk out of the room. Walking out seems to work more effectively then the other Sometimes I will turn those wuestions into statements ie: "Are you in a bad mood" becomes "You look like you're not in the greatest frame of mind", generally followed up by walking out of the room . Many times H's reaction to this is "where are you going, I'm ______"
So, sometimes I'm good at doing what works and sticking with it...then there are other times when I am a major screw-up I try to own my mistakes and actions though and NOT blame H...9 times out of 10 it is my own foolishness anyways. The propensity to lay the blame in H's lap is there but I fight it...it's that whole action/reaction thing tossed in with assumptions and perception, an evil, wicked poisonous concoction that does no R/M any good.
Hugz, Zoo
"If patience is worth anything, it must endure to the end of time. And a living faith will last in the midst of the blackest storm."
- Mahatma Gandhi
Sometimes I will turn those wuestions into statements ie: "Are you in a bad mood" becomes "You look like you're not in the greatest frame of mind", generally followed up by walking out of the room 
I try to own my mistakes and actions though and NOT blame H...9 times out of 10 it is my own foolishness anyways. The propensity to lay the blame in H's lap is there but I fight it...it's that whole action/reaction thing tossed in with assumptions and perception, an evil, wicked poisonous concoction that does no R/M any good.
