Ro, he is very confused, that's clear by the ILYs and the things he says. In 9 months he hasn't gotten less confused.

Kicking his bum on the way out the door may make you feel good and strong, and justified, and all that, but that's the old Ro. Hurt him so he can't hurt you more.

Anger is certainly justified and normal, but think about what you want before you react and say whatever comes to mind. Feel your feelings, but don't let them rule your actions and words.

If you can be someone he'd love to come back to, the choice becomes yours. But he's done having his cake and eating it, he needs to go and get some space, and so do you, to figure out whether you belong together. And not in a mean way, but it's true, you may not still be there for him to come back to.

Don't forget how you've changed in this time. Was it a tactic or was it real? (((ro)))

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.