Quote: I think you DID need to "check in" with your H on the "state of the union". Perhaps a more positive or open approach would have worked better.
I thought I had approached it positively...I was smiling when I asked what HE thought and I was upbeat and I didn't preclude it with my usual "TALK" set-up?? Even when I mentioned the sex stuff I was carefull with the phrasing. I stated it as something that I was confused about and didn't understand...I didn't voice it in an accusatory manner nor lay the blame at H's feet for it. I was dumbfounded by his reactions...it was like he heard something TOTALLY different then what I said
I did try my best to dwell more on the positive aspects of the whole scenario. That "ILY...." statement went a long way with me
Hugz, Zoo
"If patience is worth anything, it must endure to the end of time. And a living faith will last in the midst of the blackest storm."
- Mahatma Gandhi
