Sorry you are here Sam. I'm new to DB, and new to this MLC experience as well.

From what I gather, MLCers do not and cannot "stop and think". Knowing that my H CANNOT right now has helped me to not expect him to, the "no expectations" part of DB mantra. Doesn't take away my pain of course, but at least it has stopped me from banging my head against the wall.

Me 46 H 56
M 22 yrs
S22, D20, Twin Ss18

You teach people how to treat you by what you allow.
What you stop.
And what you reinforce.
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A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.