3 years aftet D-Day and i finally registet

[Am I Too Late]

Just for polite perspective, i was being facetious regarding the AA meetings being a way to GAL.

No problem though, regarding your interpretation.

I sincerely Thank You Very Much for your rigorous candor to hold me accountable. Please feel welcome to continue as time permits.

As far as me still pushing, there have only been isolated incidences since she moved out, but my opinion is very biased regarding my own behavior and the consequential results.

Yes, i did return her text on that morning in question. I have not initiated any more than 5% to 10% of the communications since she left. I have for sure gotten caught up in text conversations that she has initiated. I felt that she was reaching out.. Otherwise, i typically do wait to respond.

During her prolonged periods of not visiting or calling our son, i pretty much went dark until she initiated contact. After she finally got back in touch, requesting to visit our boy, i did send her a batch of photos of him enjoying various activities over the previous two week period of time. I wanted her to see what she was missing out on by not being engaged on his weekly accomplishments and life experiences.

Maybe, in hindsight, i should have left her out of the loop of even informing her of his fun scholastic and extracurricular activities.

I honestly did not want to withhold those precious moments from her.

Should i?

Yes, i have been, both put in the position of, and eagerly accepting of, the 100% full time child care provider.

I would not feel comfortable with her having him at this time, for any extended, unsupervised visitations yet.

Upon her 1st getting back in touch to request upcoming visits, i stated that i felt that prior to her getting him alone, that we should attend some sort of parenting counseling. She agreed that it sounded like a good idea.

3 days later, she was verbally making comments about plans to pick him up and i reminded her what she had agreed to.

Until that occurs, especially since there is no judicial custody agreement, i am sticking to that requirement and if/when she brings it up again, i will ask what counseling arrangements she has sought out. The onus of fulfilling that requirement is on her shoulders. That MAY get twisted into me denying her access to visitation, but her admitted excessive drinking and previous visitation or even phone call track record seems to warrant this measure.

I don't expect her to follow through.

I am NOT drawing this boundary to initiate one on one face time with her. It is absolutely for accountability and safety concerns.

Please chime in and state if you agree or disagree with that course of action.

Please, no holds barred.

I previously joined the Knights Of Columbus through my Catholic Church, but found it lacking the type of personal fulfillment i was seeking.

It was suggested to me to look for a, Parents Without Partners group. I font know if that would just wind up being a spousal beatch-a-thon gathering or a sublime lonely singles match game. I am not interested in either of those scenarios. I wont know until i try it out though. The closest meeting is about 30-45 minutes away.

She has not shown up at either this past Saturday mornings or this Monday evenings karate class for our son. I have not contacted her since she visited last week Wednesday.

I honestly see a difficult path for me without my son along with. I seriously need more focus on trying to earn some cash and to try to sell my commercial property before i lose that and also my 2-Flat rental unit due to property tax delinquencies.

I will continue to Detach, but please advise me if i am doing it the right way, please. I am willing to take Good Orderly Direction.

Thank You Very Much for investing your time and effort so far.

Gratefully,

Ed