best and worse thing to ever go through

[eyesopen]

So I think since it seems that D is going to happen, I think that my best option is to tell her to make a appointment with a mediator. I think it will be the most fair and probably the quickest. I do not want to stall it. It does not mean that the emotional connection is gone. If she wants a strong self confident man, it seems that rather than going back and forth with lawyers, sitting down with her and showing that I am not bothered by it is the right way.

I am also thinking of a final speech before going as dark as I can, and letting her work out her issues.

"You want your independence, and now you have it. We are no longer a family, we are co-parents. You can't have it both ways. I love you more than you know, and when you are ready to talk, I am here to listen. But until then you are just the mother of my children."

I am not looking for a reaction, just setting boundaries. I know she is struggling with this but I also don't think a mother that would break up her family deserves much more. I know it may seem harsh, but extreme times call for extreme measures.

In the end I still want to be with her and keep my family together. Has anyone had any success with the hardline approach?