thinking on new life w/o X

[forward]

I emailed X that I anticipate moving sometime next year, to be with New Guy, and that we anticipate being married (no date yet) and that D will be with us.

No reply. Not surprised, really, and don't really care. I need to keep X informed on things is all. Lots to consider with new blended family issues now, and I don't have time to worry about X.

Irma: I think each person takes the necessary time to come through things and heal, and of course you can stand as long as you wish.

However, you are taking a martyr stance here, and you may want to think that over. Frankly, a martyr is not attractive. And your life is worth more than the person who left years ago.