W called today and said that she heard word through some back channels that she wasn't going to get the transfer. She was quite upset. I listened to her vent for a while before I got another call from work and had to let her go.
Needless to say, I'm a little let down. Not too much though.
I'm thinking about proceeding on with my plans to move back home anyway.
Things are good between us. This would likely rock the boat.
This is what I have in mind.
"W, I'm sorry this transfer fell through for you. I was really excited. After thinking about it I have decided to move back as we had planned. It is the right thing for ME. I am ready to listen to any ideas you have about how to work things out once you have time to think about it."
I am going to think on this for the rest of the week before I say anything to her about it.
My thoughts right now are. - Fade is right. What is she gonna do? Keep S here with her and hire a sitter for the 3 days a week she is on the road? - I will be just fine with her staying here and me having all responsibility for S back home. - I expect nothing, maybe even negative consequences in regards to our R if I choose to do this. I want to do it anyway. - There is risk involved. The risk of not seeing my S for a while. I don't like this. At all. I think this risk is small. I believe that she might just be selfish enough to stay here and keep him here as well. But I don't think this would last for long without anyone she can rely on for help.
Risky business. Got to think on it. Any and all thoughts are appreciated
