Breakdown, I didn't actually say that to him. I thought it though... I just looked at him. I know better than to say that!! Go back and re-read - I want to make sure that was clear.

Re: flirty/fun... H is just not in the mood for that right now. I think it would be seen as pursuing. One of the dynamics in our R is that he feels like he doesn't have enough control. He kind of needs to call the shots for a while.

Plus Acts of Service is one of my LL so I want to make sure he is appreciated for helping. I think with him it just has to be really black and white. He does not like game playing... I know, I'm making him sound like someone who isn't fun at all, and I think because of his insecurities, he's not able to really have fun and enjoy himself in a relationship, at least not ours. There is no teasing, no friendly competitiveness. Maybe we need to step up the fun aspect a little bit.

Me54, H53
M 23, T 25
S20, S18
BD: April 2024
Moved out: August 2024

Love means not giving up on someone even if they've given up on you.

"Being right is the booby prize of life." - Susan Page