Go post your story on a forum like ‘talk about marriage’ and you will be flooded with advice to file for D ASAP and teach her a lesson. Then read the stories here where LBS’s doormat it for years and years, no matter the results. There has to be a happy medium somewhere in between.
You and you alone can determine what it the best action to take. It is your life man. I or no one else on these boards is. A lot of times, an LBSer will run and file, usually in a fit of anger and as you probably know, doing something when you are angry is usually not the best action.
Regret
What does that mean to you?
What if just as you file, your W looks at you and says…why didn’t you wait, I was just starting to realize how much you meant to me, etc.
Would you look back and regret that you did not give her enough time?
Would you look back and say…f*ck if I only waited a little longer.
What if your W, when you were making some of your own mistakes (and trust me WE ALL do) filed and left you. How would you feel?
I know it is tough dude and there are no guarantees that your M will survive. To some extent, it is out of your control. An M takes two people ultimately. What is in YOUR control BTW, is how you will feel when whatever happens – happens. Will you end it pissed off with a ton or regret, which you will end up carrying with you? Only you KNOW man.
A wise man once said to me…..
“NO regrets”….whatever you do “No regrets”
That approach is NOT for HER ….it is for YOU Sunny.
You say you are a man of faith, a man of God….
Have a little faith brother…faith in YOURSELF. Faith that whatever happens will be God’s will NOT your, not mine….and NOT HERS.
Sometimes we never know why things happen the way they do initially. In my sitch, I ended up divorced but I ended up with something much more important, much more beneficial to me, to my kids and (this may be hard to believe) to my XW (at least the woman I married)..I ended up with…
A new ME!
More patience, a better understanding of life, more compassion, love, happiness, hopefulness a closer relationship with God, a better father…..
What you have right now Sunny is TIME.
Time to really ask God to show you things about yourself, about who you want to be, about YOUR purpose in life….
Let her Go…hand her over to God…
Focus on YOU
Allow her to make HER OWN choices, while YOU make the ones that YOU need to make for YOU.
I am not saying NOT to file…just giving you something to think about.
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
