School called - D4 not feeling well, need to pick her up. H thinks it's his responsibility to pick her up based on our custody agreement draft. I disagree. We are both interpreting one paragraph differently.
He accuses me again of being a bully and going back on our custody agreement and wanting to take the kids away (he has used those adjectives when we've had misunderstandings before)... He says I am still fighting him, that I have never stopped. Good news - I remained calm.
My mistake is that I still tried to calmly explain my POV. I said I was sorry there was a misunderstanding, sorry he was hurt, etc. He accused me of patronizing him.
I didn't lose my cool at any moment, but the back and forth went on for way too long. I should have ended it from the get go, period. But every time I do so, he accuses me of avoiding issues and ignoring him like I did in our M...
That one is the one that hooks me back in. I KNOW I need to not get sucked in, but I did today. It's the trigger of his accusation that I have not changed... And the name calling and accusations... that also get to me.
I was frustrated after the fact. Now I am journaling about it and letting it go. I know it's not true. I am unloading his anger from my shoulders - taking this burden off now...
Me & H: 44 D7, D6, S3 Together: 20y, M: 17y EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10 EA becomes PA: Spring 2011 H filed for D: 09/06/12 D Negotiating began 2/15 OW seemingly gone on 3/15 Still negotiating D
