Yes, I have read DR and DB books. I'm trying hard to detach...its soo much easier said than done! Especially with him texting our daughters almost everyday. All this behavior is NOT him and I really thought he would have come to his senses by now. I think what has prevented me from detaching was him going back and forth with his emotions and one week wanting to be home and one week saying we are just oil and vinegar and cannot get along. He was very upset that I was not welcoming him with open arms 2 weeks ago when he asked to come back...but I cant do that without the assurance and trust that he hasn't given me. Now, I feel like its my fault and I ruined the only chance I had for him to be back here with my girls and I and to be here through the rest of the pregnancy. I have had no contact with him for over a week now and that has been the hardest part...
I know that detaching is the best thing for myself and H as well but I cannot help but to think that he is detaching more as well. He is now telling my kids he is going to get his own place (he is currently at his parents and he hates it there) and that we will have 2 happy homes. Its like he is living in a fantasy world...none of us are happy right now...including him. He claims this is the hardest thing he has ever had to do....well then...why are you doing it?
Is it normal for a H who wants to divorce to tell me that he loves me and cares about me and cant imagine his life without me in it, but yet doesnt want to remain married?
M:36 H:36 D14, D11, Baby due in March M:15 T:18 Met OW: 3/12 H Moved out: 8/12 Legal Sep: 11/5/12
