Also this past weekend my wife actually broke down emotionally to me and let me console her. The stress of what she’s going thru with her mom and bff, and us finally became too much for her to keep inside. I hugged her and held her and told her that we’d make it through this. I did ask her is I was overstepping by toughing her, as she told me before at this point she wasn’t comfortable with that, she said I wasn’t. She made a comment that she couldn’t control any of what was going on with them, I told her I knew and how much it must hurt not to be able too, and also told her what a great daughter and friend she was/is to them.
Wow, that sounds HUGE! That's really fantastic progress, congrats!! You handled it perfectly by not trying to fix her problems, but instead validating her emotions and filling her love tank with "words of affirmation" to boot. Job well done! I'd just caution you to not make a big move towards her but let her develop the pace. Remember the squirrel analogy, hold the food and let the squirrel come get it, if you make even the slightest move it'll run away and you start all over again. Good luck!
