Journalling, So nothing has really changed at all with W. Has not left, still wearing wedding ring, sleeping in the same bed.
Sounds so similar to my sitch. At that point I had tons of hope that things would turn around. Then she quit wearing the rings, that was a big blow. She continues sleeping in the same bed and even ML up until she moved out.
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W left a journal book out on the bed which I opened and read. Wish I did not but it was to late by then.
Sounds like she wanted you to. She may have used that to tell you what she doesn't want to or can't tell you.
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He wants me to be his wife. I want to be one of my dearest friends?? What does that mean??
My W said the same thing. "I think we could be really good friends." Now she barely talks to me. So it doesn't mean a thing. Like the DB tip says:
32. Do not believe any of what you hear and less than 50% of what you see.
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These comments are a complete 180 from what she has said for our 17 years of marriage. Does this sound like a MLC?
MLC or WAS. Sometimes it's hard to tell. Usually there's a lot of anger attached to MLC though, not so much with WAS.
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All this effort and Love that I have poured out and now it is all falling apart!! Hopeless in reading this that she has already made the decesion to leave, I think. How can the switch be turned off which seems like overnight? But turning the switch back on may never happen or take who knows how long.
What you're going through and feeling is normal for this situation. I know it may not help much, but we do all have those thoughts early on. It'll get better when you learn to detach and accept what's going on. You can't control it, you can't switch it on or off, all you can do is give her time and space to sort through it.
